The Social Experiment

Over the past couple of weeks, my partner in crime and I decided to really give up on dating. She was having issues with a guy who in one second, wanted her to meet all his family and the next second, giving all the signs that 'he's just not that into you'. Cancelling dates, not returning calls, and they call us the crazy ones?

Anyways, we decided to make a 'single's page', where we could meet other singles and just have a single grand ol' time. What we didn't realize is how much the page was going to be a hit....with the cougars.

Within 2 weeks, the page was almost up to 60 people and we were going to have our first event. You know my love for sushi and my love for meeting new people so, I was hoping others hopped on board as well. With about a 40/20 ratio of women to men, it seemed like this was going to be a smash hit.

If only it was...

With my little black dress on, matching leopard print shoes and bag, make-up all done up, I was off, ready to socialize with strangers of all ages, genders, backgrounds; share break-up stories and eat all the sushi I could shove in my mouth.

I meet up with my friend, who also brought along one of her friends, so that makes 3 of us girls. We get our name tags put together and sit and play the waiting game..order food...and wait some more and take a whole bunch of pictures....and wait some more. We start wishing this restaurant had a patio so we could rate men on the street and hopefully, draw more candidates in the group.

Well you can kinda see where this is going. Not one soul out of almost 60 showed up! So I got to wondering, if so many people like this idea....why are they just settling on the idea instead of the concept of actually socializing?

I'm learning in a psychology book right now that people find safety in numbers. You get the oddball like me who doesn't mind going out alone but I would so rather go with someone else. We pushed for our followers to bring friends but, it didn't make the cut. I guess thinking about it, it's rather odd to go a restaurant to sit at a table with maybe one person you know, but at a table of people you don't know. Kinda sounds like arranged seating at a wedding...the more cocktails you get in, the more apt you are to care about the people around you, if not, dig in..wait for the DJ and dance the night away.

We decided to end the night at a local pub and rate the men there...unfortunately again, it was a Tuesday night so, that didn't work out. Either way, it was still a nice time hanging out with the girls...and still sharing break up stories, learning about my friend's giant turn off when it comes to men and little dogs, and because we're all moms...talking about our kids.

We're thinking about making our next event at a winery.......hopefully wine will make people come out!